SPADES · Digital Life & LearningAges 9–14

Your Kid's Image Was Used to Create a Fake Image Online

Trait under pressure: Dignity

The sense that you have worth that cannot be taken away by what others say or do.

Use this when

You discover or are told that someone has used a photo of your child to create a manipulated or AI-generated fake image and shared it online.

Why this is harder now

AI tools now make it possible for anyone to create realistic fake images of real people in seconds, and kids are increasingly targets.

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Parent Pre-Check

Your kid needs to know this happened to them, not because of them. Hold that distinction tightly from the first word you say.

The Scripts
Direct Hit
When you catch them or have 30 seconds

"I need to talk to you about something serious. Someone may have used a photo of you to create a fake image. I'm not angry at you — I need you to tell me everything you know."

Slow Burn
For a car ride or a planned conversation

"Something has come to my attention and I want to handle it together with you, not at you. There's a situation involving a photo of you and I need to understand what happened before we figure out next steps."

When Your Kid Pushes Back
What your kid says
Your response
"I don't know how they got my photo."
"Photos can be pulled from any public profile — even things posted by friends. This is not your fault. We're going to focus on what we do now, not on blame."
"I'm so embarrassed — I don't want anyone to know."
"What happened to you is a violation — not an embarrassment. The shame belongs to the person who did this, not to you. I'm going to make sure you know that every day while we deal with this."
"Is it going to be everywhere?"
"We're going to do everything we can to stop it. That means documenting, reporting, and getting help. We're starting that today."
🚫 Don't Say This

"Why did you post so many photos?": Assigns blame to the victim. This was done to them, not caused by them.

The Close
End with this

"You did nothing wrong. This is something happening to more kids than you know — and there are ways to fight it. We're going to fight it together."

The Follow-Up
What to do next

Report the content to the platform immediately, same day. Document with screenshots before reporting. Contact the Cyber Civil Rights Initiative at cybercivilrights.org for guidance. Do not reshare or reopen the content unnecessarily.

⚠️ Escalate Immediately If

The fake image is sexual in nature. This is a crime regardless of your child's age. Contact law enforcement and the NCMEC CyberTipline at cybertipline.org the same day. Do not save or forward the image, document the URL and report location instead.

↑ Ages 15+

Be direct that this is called image-based abuse and it is illegal in most states. They have rights and there are legal resources specifically for this. Cyber Civil Rights Initiative (cybercivilrights.org) has a crisis helpline.

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